Wow, you clicked.

What is it you are trying to, but just can’t seem to, let go of anyway?

Is it In the sense (transitive) of invoking some object or phenomenon, as in letting go of...

The past?

A person?

An event?


Or, is it simply just the intransitive sense of letting go in general without specifying any (direct) object or phenomenon. As in, he or she said, “you just have to let go.”

“I HATE, when people tell me that. It’s an insult to me.”

Hmmm, let’s think about this a few minutes.

What does it really mean to “let go”, and why is it really just another cliche (or myth) that may in fact do more damage than any good? For sure, many people who have crossed our paths are just as disappointed with that, yet another cliche associated with this business.

By the way, before we move on. Never, let go (it’s likely not possible for most of us anyway.)

It’s important we sort this out ‘cause one can waste a lot of time on this letting go hypothesis when there are so much healthier and better and more realistic ways to spend our time. Life is short, no?

Think of it like in the first sense, of letting go of something.

A. The Past

Assume you want to let go of the past. Well, here is what’s contained in your past that will disappear when you let go of it.

  • The universe and all it brings us, such as the solar system, the stars, the earth and its unique properties (air, water, life, elements (oxygen, nitrogen, hydrogen, carbon etc)) animals other humans and - well, show us a fruit-bearing tree or vegetable-bearing plant that didn’t precede the formation of the fruit and vegetables we love to eat (and grains too, and tubers, legumes etc).

  • Language, in any way shape or form, ja?

  • You.

  • Or in other words, all your cells (37.2 trillion)* and organs and limbs and every single atom you are composed of, about 7 x 10(27)^ to be exact, which add up to your eyes or nose or arms etc., which are part of your past in that they came from a time before the time we are here together on this page, which is to some, the present, but in fact by the time you get to this word, was in fact, the past.

  • Your family, and anyone you know, or ever knew or met or have still to (because though you haven’t met them yet, and in that sense they exist in your future, they had to exist prior to your meeting them, which from the perspective of that moment when you meet in the future, it’s all the past (given of course, a linear view of time which we in general don’t prescribe to but is useful for this particular analysis.)

  • Every “physical” object in your world or form of energy, including the device you are reading this on and the heat it generates or the light it emits or the mass its energy is equivalent to.

  • That breath you just took that gave you the possibility for the next one.

So, right. Letting of of the past would definitely solve our problems - in that we rarely ask people to let go of or forget events they celebrate - but it would give you the even bigger problem of never having existed, which means at least you wouldn’t be searching the web for health retreats and paying the costs of the internet connection required for you to carry this thing called the past with you everywhere you go.

So, in short, to let go of the past in general is problematic in the very technical and physical sense, and thus we shouldn’t really ask ourselves to do that because knowledge is power and it would represent our not being knowledgeable or informed.


B. A Person (to be continued)

C. An Event (si, me too…)

D. Pain (ja, auch…)

I feel so much gratitude, something I always struggled to feel. Now it’s flowing through me...
— A
I am eternally thankful for the wisdom, compassion and patience, and for the enriching life-long gifts I take with me.
— B