When the divorce was obvious, I just wanted to stay friends. I wanted a friend in him. Not just someone to problem solve with about selling the house and share financial Excel® files with.
If we can jump out of the grip our fear holds on us, we have a greater possibility to succeed. If our expectation of a certain outcome is a driving force and not a limitation, we have a greater possibility to succeed too, as we detach from “I need to succeed.” The “need” for success becomes a limitation if we are afraid of not succeeding. The frustration a “need” creates in us is not an energy that makes us creative or productive, but rather a block to our energy. Expectation is a driving force if we can work towards the outcome of our expectation while being OK the actual outcome expected is not delivered.
