"the ego grows in proportion to your distance from god."
For us, however - loosely borrowing from our inspriation Sir Isaac Newton - "the intensity of the Ego is inversely proportional to the square of the distance from the source."
We must therefore ask ourselves, what is our energy source, and how far are we away from it, from ourselves?
(Given we accept some sort of dualism, or some degree of separation between the "heart" and "mind", including modern neuropsychological experiments in which a 100-300 ms gap between decisions we make and our conscious awareness of them is observed)
(one might also accept that we overthink our lives in that we are constantly in the process of explaining ourselves, or justifying ourselves, rather than living the life we would ultimately, had we not depended too much on other's plans for us)